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Do I care about career more than family?

My bf and I have been dating for around 2 years now but its a long distance relationship. So now we are trying to settle down in a common place. He is planning to find a job in big cities like atlanta after which i am going to move to whereve he finds a job (im currently in wisconsin and he is in mississippi). He is currently staying in a very small university town where there arent many prospects. But he asked me if I would consider moving to the town but I refused cause I think my career will be affected because of it. He accused me that my priorities are all mixed up cause I am more concerned about my career than us staying together. I told him that I wont have any problems moving to big cities like atlanta etc where the job prospects are better but I wont like to move to a town with very few growth opportunities. He said that I am very career minded and money minded...is that a fair deduction? Am I wrong in thinking this way?

Public Comments

1. ur career is certainly imp...but u should give equal imp to ur family
2. Ask yourself this: Will unbridled love bring home the paychecks? Your boyfriend has to realize that it's not all about him, although I can see why he would feel threatened. You are denying his wishes because you want to better yourself in life. This is the ambitious human mind at work. You're at no fault. But talk with your boyfriend as to how important your career is to you. He should be able to understand how you feel at the very least. A good boyfriend would make sacrifices for you and support you all the way, even if it means not being able to live where you want. Get him to join your bandwagon.
3. Stick to your guns you need to be independantly financial so if that means his happily settled down and you at home with kids waits so be it.....Seems like he doesn't want to move away and tryin to make you feel guilty about it...What you have is ambition and that different to being materialistic or having priorities wrong which is what he's implying!!!! Go get your life be all you can be and if he not there sorry he not the one for you!!
4. I don't think your obsessed with your career. I just think you're a realist. No one wants to move down in a career. If moving to a smaller city with no prospects isn't for you then he should accept that. I do think though, even in a little way, we are money-driven. He should just realize what you would have to give up by moving there.
5. I don't think you're wrong, although I don't think he's wrong either. Most people don't realize (and I never did) that financial stability is pretty important to a good relationship. You need to live in a place where you can both have good careers that make a reasonable amount of money, and that you enjoy. If he doesn't agree with that, it may be that you are just too different. While compromise is very important, you need to make yourself happy too.
6. I disagree with your boyfriend. Why bother to make two moves? That doesn't make any sense at all. You're already in a long distance relationship so a little while longer is not going to make any difference. Two moves (one to a small town, plus one to a larger city) is costly and will also reflect on your resume. This has nothing to do with how you feel about him, it's simply common sense. He is being overdramatic.