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Tell me if I'm just being a brat or not?

I am 24 and I live in Atlanta. My dad is getting ready to move to Asia in less than a year, so we decided just to get an apartment together, and we would split the bills until he left. (It was going to help us both) Well now he has gotten married, and he is letting his wife live with us. (No big deal). But she doesn't work. I dont think it's fair. I'm super picky about my living quarters, and I get mad if something is out of place, or she doesn't fold the blanket on the couch, or she leaves a light on. Am I being ridiculous? I dont feel like it's right that I work two jobs and go to school, and she gets to sit at my place (use my internet/cable/electricity) and not pay a dime. EVEN though my dad is paying half. I don't want to come across as the bratty, jealous daughter... but I am upset about this. What should I do??

Public Comments

1. Tell your dad that you don't want her living their unless she helps around the house at least or gets a job. Tell him she is driving you razy by living there but not paying anything.
2. Sounds normal enough, that's your space. You share it, and should be a little more accepting of the little stuff. (Like would it matter as much if it were your dad not folding that blanket?) But still, three people was not the deal right? I would ask that your father pay 2/3 now though. That's fair and reasonable enough.
3. Personally, I'll be pissed off too! It's not fair to be having a third person laying around, doing nothing, when you are busting your ass to make ends meet. Confront your dad and tell him that you feel like since there's three people living there, then the bills should be slpit in three ways. You all will be saving money. She needs to be a woman and work for what she wants. Everything is not going to always be handed to her on a golden platter. It's called being INDEPENDENT!!!
4. definitely get over the blanket thing, but if money is a real issue, than you can fuss about the lights but just ask, don't be picky. the best way to get her to start shutting off the lights is to shut it off yourself and calmly ask her to shut them off. people listen to people they respect
5. Talk to your father about it. Maybe if he knows how you feel he could do something. No, it is not fair for her to get a free ride, especially when you are working your hide off. She needs to be more fair in her actions. Instead of blazing it at her, maybe discussing it with your dad could bring some good.
6. Well, first of all, there are now 3 of you in the appartment and the bills need to be split 3 ways. But, if it were me, I would want them to move. Two women in one household seldom works out. It is a big deal, deep down you know it is. If it were not you would not resent her using the things you pay for while she leeches off you. They need to pay their fair share or move. Simple as that. If they move, find a room mate or do things on your own.
7. This is what happens when you have roomates, regardless of who they are. If you want things a certain way, get your own place. It's the same when you're married. You may want to do things differently than your spouse. You're splitting things with your dad, not his new wife. As long as he continues to hold up his end, you have nothing to complain about.
8. yea i get mad when things get out of place plus I am only 14 but I am soo organize and cant stand messes. I know its weird! You are not being a bratty jealous daughter, beside its not right that your mom/step mom doing that. Tell your dad, well just talk to him, just say like I dont mean to be rude but or just talk to your mom/step mom or both. I know how you feel and just help her around saying please turn off the light if you are done and stuff like.
9. tell your dad he has to pay more to cover his wife's share of the expenses. One more person isn't going to make a huge difference in the amount of electricity or water used, and will have no effect on the cost of internet or cable tv. Doesn't matter how many people watch tv, the cost is still the same. As long as you have your own room,make sure your things are safely in there, and if need be, put a lock on your bedroom door so she can't borrow your stuff. Each time you feel you are picking up after her, remind her to put things back to where and how she found them. Remember he is going to leave before the end of the year, so try to enjoy him before he's over seas. Don't let him leave with you two angry at each other. You work hard to keep things nice and she should respect that.
10. First off I would say that it is not fair. The original deal was for you to have a single room mate and pay half. Now you have two, your rent should be reduced to 1/3. I am assuming that you did not OK her moving in. On the other hand he is your Dad. I am sure he has done more for you than you could ever repay back. Maybe you should just let it slide since it is temporary anyway even though it is wrong.