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Does finding that special someone take work?

I always thought that I would simply meet that speical someone when I wasn't looking...now that I'm 25, I've begun to look and it takes so much work! Is finding "the love of your life" supposed to take effort/work?

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isn't anything worth having take "work and effort"?????
I didn't find the love of my life until I stopped looking.
Yes. You have to meet a lot of people.
Stop looking. if you are looking too hard you'll end up with wrong guy out of desperation.
Not really, for me she came into my life naturally. We were friends and then we realized that we were made for each other and then we got married.
i always thought one would find their mate no matter what they were doing. don't expect any of it to be easy specially after you find him/her
Of course it's work! Anything worth having is worth working for.
I think if you make the effort to BE THAT special someone, then the right one WILL come along eventually. Usually when you least expect it and when you are not looking, searching so HARD. Just be the right person in the right places and you'll run into HIM soon enough. I think the more you push, force, work at FINDING the less you actually DO FIND anyone of any quality. Like you said - it's gotta come naturally or it isn't!
She saw me across the room at a dance and told her friends that I was the man she was going to marry. I didn't meet her until 2 weeks later. That was 25 years ago and we are still going strong.
Lots of people say, "stop looking," but the opposite worked for me. I thought long and hard about what I wanted, then I set out to find him. It only took a short while, and within two months we were married. I attribute this to the fact that I was very consciously looking and quickly ruling out men who didn't fit into my needs. I was older than you (I was 45) and I had come out of a really terrible relationship. During much of that relationship, in fact, I was thinking, "what do I REALLY want/ deserve," so I'd had a bit of a headstart. He was in a really similar place in his life. He knew what didn't work for him.We had both spent all the time lonely and unhappy that we cared to. We work very hard at our relationship and our marriage, but it's the kind of work where the rewards are exponential.
Yes is the short answer dear. good luck. I hope you find happiness.
It really doesn't take work to find that special person...It kinda- happens naturally when you are not looking most of the time..Yet the real workcomes in trying to keep the relationship strong alive worthy and healthy...That's were the real work is..the maintainance
I'm 39. I gave up a long time ago. I think the "love of my life" must have died at birth, or commited suicide, or is just on another planet. I spent a lot of time and energy thinking that I was not a real woman if I wasn't married. I've almost been married to the wrong men three times. Now, I realize that they were doing me a favor. I'm an attractive, successful, funny and sensitive woman who just so happens to be single. There's nothing wrong with me. I'm not getting beat on, cheated on, or emotionally manipulated. I clean my own place and I clean up after myself. I'm not worrying about supporting him if he loses his job. I'm not worried about a porn, alcohol, or drug addiction that will leave me broke and/or heartbroken. I don't get into knock-out drag-down fights about my in-laws and the holidays. I don't fight about the best way to raise my daughter. The dog sleeps in my bed. It's all my way. I don't have sex if I don't feel like it, and I do exactly what I want. I am the queen of the remote, the refrigerator, and if I want a pink lawn mower, I'll have one. I go on vacation where I want, and the only sport allowed on my TV is soccer. Someday, maybe someone will come along, but hey, even if it never happens, that's okay, too. Besides, I buy myself the best Christmas presents! So, even though you haven't found your special someone, think about how lucky you are that you haven't found Mr. Right-turned -Nightmare, either. Relax. You have plenty of time.